There was one particular night 3 1/2 years ago. JESUS! I was single and I was in a lonely, frustrated place. I had come to a point where I was frustrated with the fact that I was single and without any prospects for a future husband. I was so maaaaaaaad! I finally said LORD, I GIVE UP! ALL OF ME I GIVE TO YOU!
I was 25 years old when I said this. When I had finished crying, yelling and giving in, I took out my computer and emailed two of my close friends for accountability. I emailed them saying I have committed to live only for Christ. I was becoming a temporary nun. No more dating, no more daydreaming and talking about marriage until the time was right. I asked them to hold me accountable. If they found me talking about marriage or how “whack” being single was they were to snap me back to focus. The last thing was I put God on the line. Yeah I was bold. I said to God, “I cant take it!” Please dont bring any man to me that will not be my husband. I committed right there that the next man I dated would be my Husband and God confirmed.
It wasn’t that I was going to make the next man I dated, my husband. It was: God the next man able to get close enough to be my boyfriend, the next man able to get out of the friend-zone, better be my husband! It was a crazy night but, as I look back right now it was sooo WORTH it. I needed that night!
A GOOD THING. When I hear that phrase I think of the scripture that says “He that finds a wife finds a good thing.” Yes, I know I’m not a man and I’m not the finder but I have found a GOOD THING.
This good thing I am speaking of is my love for life. I absolutely LOVE life. I am speaking of my love for each season God has placed me in. And now, yes, this good thing I’m speaking of is my future husband.
Ladies take note! I didnt go looking, and no, I didnt find him, but I am so thankful I said YES! That yes was not easy and came with years of preparation and long nights of one on one sessions with God before I ever knew my man existed.
I needed to be refocused! I needed to see and understand the beauty in my SINGLENESS. What? It is so great to be SINGLE! You have an unbelievable amount of time to spend with God. You can go and come as you please, you have time to serve in ministry, spend time with your girls/boys. UNLIMITED ME TIME! Enjoy it!
After that night with me, God and the email, I enjoyed every bit of my singleness. I became so close with God and I learned so much more about myself. IT WAS AMAZING! My singleness, my me time, my me and God time, it was my GOOD THING. It was what I needed to get me to the next good thing that was right around the corner.
I firmly believe because of that email, because of my embracing of SINGLENESS and my strengthened connection with the Lord I was prepared for my next season in life.
FAST FORWARD>>> 3 1/2 years later I am engaged and months away from being married. 29 and the first person I will share my most intimate moment ever with is going to be my husband 🙂 Thats a GOOD THING.
I leave you with two of the scriptures that I prayed constantly in my season of singleness.
Jeremiah 29:11– “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
Be encouraged. Enjoy the season God has placed you in. Enjoy the transition you are experiencing and in every season find that GOOD THING!
#beCHIC #IamCHIC #thatGoodThing